Funeral Details

My tia Alicia gave me the best advice after a bad season in my life. She visited me in my too small overpriced apartment on Barry street where I lived with my 2 precious young daughters. I had just become a "single mom" and somehow my tia, as if sent by a prayer, showed up just as I needed a scolding, a shoulder to cry on, and a woman who understood my hurt and bitterness. I was going through a nasty divorce. I had lost everything that I worked so hard on. I had also lost a huge piece of my self esteem. I felt like an utter failure, and now I was the sole provider for my household. She sat patiently waiting for me to get it all out. I yelled, it isnt fair! I told her how much I wanted him to die, and how I would never ever make THAT mistake again. Then, after I wiped my snot on a kleenex she kept in her sweater pocket, for just such an occassion, she leaned in close to me, and put her arm around my shaking body. I was crying uncontrollably. She looked at me without judgement. She had a way of being brutally honest, she said, "Miha, this is actually the best thing that could have happened to you." She told me that my life was not over. She told me that I was still ver very young, and yes beautiful! She shared intimate information about, " La Vida" with me, and after cursing a few times we both laughed just a little and agreed that I should not die alone. My tia gave me back my confidence that afternoon. It was wrapped in a soft kleenex, and sealed with a warm hug from her. She ordered me to find a REAL man! One who would cherrish me like I deserved to be cherrished. She told me on that day in my hot, stuffy and tiny studio apartment that I could not and should not be alone. She told me that if I did that, if I ran away from love, that I would grow old with many many self doubts and insecurities, and that I would only have myself to blame. I gave her a strong hug, and promised to let my guard down, and begin to live again. I took her advice and forgave, forgot and moved forward. Realizing that my tia was there to prophecy, and to spiritually proclaim that my real love was still out there waiting for me and my girls.
Today, I am blessed with 3 more children, 8 grandchildren and a "REAL" man who loves and adores me. Her words were exactly what I needed to hear to live my life again. She spoke a blessing over me that changed my life forever. I can only hope to be that person in someone elses life. To be the light in their darkness when they feel like they are at the end of their road.
She was truly a wonderful human being filled with wisdom and compasion. Tia I will truly miss you. Thank you for taking the time to be who you were for me. I will never forget it. I love you more than you ever knew. Thank you for helping me see a new perspective. Xochitl Medina

Xochitl Medina

May GOD bless R.I.P

Murlhy Johanna